If you feel like all hope is lost and you have no other options, talking to someone about how you are feeling may help. Talk to a family, friend, or anyone who is willing to listen. Talking for even one moment can provide some small relief. It may just be enough for you to get through the day.
If you need someone to talk to and you feel you don’t have someone, we will listen. Find a quiet place, pick up the phone and call 2-1-1. You can call anytime 24 hours a day.
When You Should Definitely Call Someone
Feeling like you want to die or to kill yourself
Looking for a way to kill yourself, such as searching for methods online or buying a gun
Feeling hopeless or like you have no reason to live
Feeling trapped or like you cannot handle the pain
Feeling like you are a burden to others
Drinking more alcohol and/or using drugs
Feeling anxious or agitated
Sleeping too little or too much
Feeling like you can’t talk to anyone and would rather be alone
Wanting to seek revenge
Having extreme mood swings
Help Someone Else
It can be scary when a friend or loved one is thinking about suicide.
If someone you know has or is threatening suicide, call 2-1-1 so we can help you can find the closest crisis center with the trained staff to help your friend or family member.
Most importantly, please encourage them to call 2-1-1 anytime 24 hours a day.
How To Be Helpful to Someone Who Is Threatening Suicide
- Be direct. Talk openly and matter-of-factly about suicide.
- Be willing to listen. Allow expressions of feelings. Accept the feelings.
- Be non-judgmental. Don’t debate whether suicide is right or wrong, or whether feelings are good or bad. Don’t lecture on the value of life.
- Get involved. Become available. Show interest and support.
- Don’t dare him or her to do it.
- Don’t act shocked. This will put distance between you.
- Don’t be sworn to secrecy. Seek support.
- Offer hope that alternatives are available but do not offer glib reassurance.
- Take action. Remove means, such as guns or stockpiled pills.
- Get help from persons or agencies specializing in crisis intervention and suicide prevention.
You should definitively call if someone you know is:
- Talking about wanting to die or to kill oneself.
- Looking for a way to kill oneself, such as searching online or buying a gun.
- Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live.
- Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain.
- Talking about being a burden to others.
- Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs.
- Acting anxious or agitated; behaving recklessly.
- Sleeping too little or too much.
- Withdrawing or feeling isolated.
- Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge.
- Displaying extreme mood swings.